The decision to have rhinoplasty is a personal one. You might consult close friends and family beforehand to get an idea of what they think, but when it comes to actually deciding to go forward with the surgery or not, the choice is yours. After you’ve had the procedure, you might wonder what to tell people or how to explain your time away or the bruising on your face. Since you are under no obligation to reveal your surgery if you don’t want to, here are a few other things to say instead.
You Took A Break
Initial recovery from rhinoplasty can take up to two weeks, during which you’ll need to stay home from work or school. If you need a cover story to tell your co-workers or friends, you can always say that you took a little break or enjoyed a staycation. If you are planning on traveling to Miami for your surgery, you can say that you enjoyed a vacation to Florida.
By the time you return to work or school, major bruising and swelling should have faded or otherwise diminished, so people won’t be able to plainly see that you’ve had something done. People might notice that you look a bit different, but many will just chalk it up to you having had a chance to relax and unwind for a few weeks. In fact, it is often said that a great rhinoplasty is seen in the eyes- so if you are a woman you can tell other that you are using a new mascara or your eyelashes grew out with Latisse.
You Had Surgery to Correct Breathing Problems
While many people are polite enough not to say something when an acquaintance or co-worker looks slightly different, some people never got the message that it’s rude to comment on other people’s appearance. If someone asks you point blank if you’ve had surgery or if someone assumes that you have had a rhinoplasty, and you don’t feel like talking about it with them in great detail, you can simply say that you had surgery to fix a deviated septum or to correct a long-standing breathing problem.
The surgery that corrects a deviated septum affects the interior of your nose, adjusting the position of the piece of cartilage that divides your nostrils. In some cases, though, a surgeon will combine septoplasty with rhinoplasty to create the best possible result. You don’t have to go into that much detail, though, especially if the person asking is someone you barely know. Just say you had some trouble with breathing and your nose and that you needed surgery to fix it.
Another option- say your broke your nose playing basketball or running into a glass door. This will explain away the bruising and the presence of a cast or nasal splint.
You are required to go into detail about your personal life or about your plastic surgery with anyone. While some people will create a story to explain their nose jobs to those they don’t know that well, others will deftly change the topic if the subject comes up. One of the easiest ways to say nothing about your rhinoplasty is to quickly excuse yourself when someone asks.
For example, you can say that you need to run to the washroom, then dash off in the direction. If you’re at work and a colleague walks by right as someone is asking you an awkward question, you can claim that you need to ask that person an important question, then head off after them. When you return, start up a new topic of conversation by asking the person about their weekend.
Another clever way to change the topic is to offer a compliment to the person pestering you about your surgery. If someone keeps asking you about rhinoplasty, ask them if they are interested in the surgery because they are thinking about having it, then say that you like the person’s nose as it is. You can also find another attribute to compliment, such as the person’s necklace, the work they did on a recent project or their shoes.
Subtlety is key when trying to change the subject, though. If you’re too obvious about it, people will make their own assumptions, which might not be what you want, either. The trick is to get the person who’s asking you about your nose to forget that they were even asking you in the first place.
While you might want to keep your rhinoplasty under wraps from some people, you might also find that you’re perfectly comfortable telling others all about it. The choice is yours, though. Don’t let someone bother you into discussing your personal decisions if that’s not what you want.
You can find out more about ways to handle curious people during your consultation with a facial plastic surgeon, such as Dr. Jeffrey Epstein. Dr. Epstein performs around five rhinoplasty surgeries a week and is well versed in ways to handle nosy people. To schedule a consultation with him in Miami, call (305) 666-4884. He also has a practice in New York City. Call (212) 759-3484 for an appointment in the Big Apple.